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What is cheating? A sexologist explains why the answer is not as simple as you'd think

Shannon Boodram shares the questions you and your partner should ask to help establish ground rules.

Shannon Boodram shares the questions you and your partner should ask to help establish ground rules

We all know the kind of damage that cheating can do to a relationship, but the types of behaviours that actually count as cheating are much harder to determine — and can vary greatly depending on who you ask. That's why sexologist Shannon Boodram suggests that the best way to identify what infidelity really means to you or your partner is to play a simple game of question and answer. Check out the video below to hear more from Shannon, and scroll down for the list of questions that'll help you define what crosses your line.

What is cheating? A sexologist explains why the answer is not as simple as you’d think

6 years ago
Duration 2:13
Shannon Boodram shares the questions you and your partner should ask to help establish ground rules.

Would you consider it cheating if...

  1. Your partner DMed someone they found attractive to strike up a casual conversation?
  2. Your partner saw their ex and then went to go grab coffee with them?
  3. Your partner flirted and danced with someone at a party but did not take down their number at the end of the night?
  4. Your partner kept in touch with their ex via text or social media?
  5. Your partner went on a one-on-one lunch date with a coworker or classmate that they found really attractive?
  6. Your partner engaged in a friendly text conversation with someone they know for a fact is attracted to them?
  7. Your partner watched porn consistently starring the same performer?
  8. Your partner admitted to fantasizing about anybody else while being sexually intimate with you?